Being a married female student

 For most women, it is difficult to continue education after marriage. A lot of responsibilities are increase to a woman’s shoulders after marriage and it becomes difficult for her to juggle her family life with education. But despite facing new obstacles and living in a completely different environment, some female with dedication and family’s support are able to continue to their studies. Though their life is completely different from what it used to be when they were single, it is definitely a praiseworthy effort on their part

   The difference

   New people, new surroundings and new perspective is what a woman after marriage faces. Then there are new responsibilities ties for her. Our society expects daughter in law to do all the household work like cook, clean wash and more for the family. In such a scenario, it becomes difficult for them to create a balance between their student life and family life.

When i asked one married female student, got married she completed her Bachelors. Before marriage, she used to be a free and an independent person. She studied as well as worked in her own beauty parlour. But due to the household responsibilities after getting married, she couldn’t continue her education. Eventually, she gave birth to her son and the responsibility increased and that made her complete housewife. And she felt she was trapped within the four walls of her house taking care of aged in laws and her son. She reveals, “I was in depression. And my parents suggested me to join classes again. I gathered my courage to study again after a gap of seven years.”

  When I asked another married female student, she response like that. Despite family support, “it is challenging for a married female to manage time for studies”. She want to share her experience, “it’s totally different from when you were unmarried. One has to do all the household chores daily. As such I am unable to attend classes regularly. Nor can I complete assignments on time.”

The female students after marriage can’t be that dedicated to their studies like the way they used to be before their marriage probably because of “our up-bringing” one lecture said. “Our nature has made us think about the family circle. So, after marriage we tend to think that it’s our duty as a daughter in law and wife to fulfil the needs of family and making them happy. In an attempt to be an ideal daughter in law and wife, we tend to immerse completely in house hold work” she opines.

Struggle and support

While some women tend to give up their studies completely after marriage, blaming various reasons, some of them have stood against the odds to continue their education. And public youth’s student who mention above is one fine example. She, who used to feel like a slave in her own house before rejoining college, these day feels like a part of family. Thanks her “understanding” husband and her interest in education, she has got her confidence back. “I am happy to be able to rejoining my college and this has brought back my happiness for my life.” she confesses.

And this interest to thing plays a very important role in woman’s life. One has to have the interest to do something like any work, then only will the family also support, no matter how difficult the way, one should  not give up and keep it up. You can’t be successful if you don’t have the will power and determination. Whether you pursue your career in a certain field after education or prefer to stay as a housewife, education is important than others sector. After marriage, women tend to spend their first few years leaving everything behind only focusing on the new family. But as time passes, they start to feel unsatisfied and trapped which is first of all, their mistake for not being determined about what they need or want. Education dose not only open opportunity for employment but it also builds capacity and maturity to tackle difficulties and take the right decision for her and her family. Studying after marriage, for female is like carrying a double load on their shoulders, but if one struggles on with a will, the result after struggle is more fruitful.”